When was the last time you checked up on yourself?

So, how are you really doing ?

I often find myself asking this question before bed because that’s when I have the best quiet time. What I do is review the actions and choices made during the day. Why did I do that? How do I really about that situation? I find that talking to myself out loud helps make better decisions.

By taking a moment each day to check-in with ourselves. We check in with bosses, spouses, teachers, kids but do we ever make the time to close our eyes and say β€œOk, self, what do we need?”


Questions to ask yourself:

  • How do I really feel about that situation with that person?
  • What’s something I need?
  • Why is this still bothering me?
  • How will I improve myself from A to B?
  • Will I be okay without a therapist for now?
  • What’s genuinely keeping me happy right now?
  • Why do I feel so insecure about this? Can It be fixed?
  • Why does this negative cycle keep happening and how can i break it?
  • Do I reaaaaaaally need to buy more skincare? (This one is for me)

I find talking about what’s in my head authentic, wheather it be me talking to others about it or me talking to myself. I’m a true believer in not keeping things in if something is bothering you.

Life is all about balance, you have the good and the bad. The questions you ask yourself don’t always have to be negative though I know as humans we tend to go there. Making sure you’re okay should always be a priority because as metioned in previous blogs you are the most important person in your life. You should always put yourself first especially when it comes to your mental wellbeing.

As a believer of God I usually pray 2-3 times a day and that for me is a way of ”venting” or checking in with myself. ”God why is this happening?” ”God, I am so thankful this happened to me” ”God I hope the outcome of this is worth it”. This in a sort of way helps me but that doesn’t mean it works for everyone as many people don’t believe in what I believe in and that’s okay too, as long as you check in with yourself and make sure that your mental state is fine. There’s so many other ways to do this, some may meditate, see a therapist, journaling, voice records and with this one you get to express yourself out loud in a different way and the good thing about this is most phones come with a voicenote app, you don’t necessarily have to listen back to the voice notes unless you want to because the main reaso of doing this is to be vocal and honest with how you truly feel. Always find time to check in with yourself no matter what may be going on in your life.

So the question I have for you today is how are you really doing?


  1. Hi Mulenga πŸ™‚

    Very good post. Thank you. I’m ok. I wish to feel better, in every aspect of my health, but I’m making steady progress toward that goal. And God is helping me, one moment at a time, with the rest. As long as I’m moving forward with God, I’m good. ❀ ❀ ❀

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    • Wow! That makes me really really happy for you, I’m glad you’re okay. I love what you said about moving with God, that’s a lovely way of thinking. I hope and pray you continue to be happy ❀️❀️❀️

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      • ❀ Aw! Thank you for your encouragement and prayer. πŸ™‚ ❀ I appreciate you very much. God bless you too. And HAPPY Saturday!


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