The truth? It hurts but of course you knew this. The thing that’s really bothersome is how breakups are portrayed in film. The whole, ‘’Oh I will have ice-cream, cry once, next day flirt with some guy on the street’’ and voila! I am over him!… back up.
Maybe it works for them but in reality most people don’t do that. Everybody goes through break-ups in different ways, some get over the person in a fortnight, 1 month, 6 months others can go years without getting over their other half but of course the media won’t show or tell you this .
A few months ago there was a trend going on Twitter ‘’Name something worse than a heartbreak ’’ and I too participated, I mean at the time I had never had my heart broken, people would say things like ‘’Leaving the house without earphones, the snapchat update, You have used up your data’’ text..’’ funny and silly replies etc, it was funny and witty but once I got my heart broken? That hashtag got muted.
“When a couple goes through a breakup, the brain experiences massive withdrawal symptoms almost identical to a heroin addict quitting cold turkey ”Dr. Fisher
This is how serious a broken heart can be but instead hollywood fails to decipher the unvarnished truth. What people need to know is the reality of it. The crying spells, the overthinking, the anxiety, the depression, loneliness, skin breaking out, fear, stress everything. It takes time. Being in love is one of the most beautiful things and it comes at different times, different ages and different stages of our lives when we least expect it and unfortunately so does heartbreak.
The unfortunate thing is things don’t always work out the way you’d have hoped to last as you did in the beginning and that’s life. It hurts. There’s no way around it but with hardship comes ease though it may not be seen or felt in that moment.
The worst thing you could do to yourself is lose yourself. It’s cliche but continuing to love yourself or learning to love yourself is the most important thing after a breakup. Don’t lose yourself, surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally be patient and with time you won’t remember the pain you edure.
‘’The poison leaves bit by bit, not all at once. Be patient. You are healing.’’Yasmin Mogahed