We as people underestimate the importance of taking a reflection of who we really are.
- Do you have commitment issues?
- Are you afraid of being in love [again]?
- Are you really the kind hearted person you claim to be?
- Are you afraid of never finding love or will you continue to pretend that you don’t care?
- Are you okay with disappointing the people around you just so you can feel happiness or will you continue to do what makes other people happy?
As we are stuck in quarantine (yes, I too am tired of hearing that word) we are stuck with our thoughts more than ever which can be uncomfortable because the goodness of keeping busy means we are distracted. Think of the time something was bothering you but you had to go to school or work. Naturally, as the day went by you forget about it but when you’re indoors 24/7 you can only avoid it so much until you address it. No one wants to always do that and the goodness of the mind is that you don’t have to.
In one of the previous blogs written ”When was the last time you checked on yourself” I presented a few questions for you to ask yourself and see how you truly feel but the difference between with then and now, coronavirus is present and like you, I haven’t left my house in 3 weeks meaning you and I are recognising a lot of things about ourselves and the goodness of this is that it is it makes us better self-aware not be confused with being self-absorbed. Self-reflection makes you a better person not just to you but the people around you too because then essentially better relationships are built.
This isn’t something you have to do day in and day out because you will fry your brain and brew unnecessary anxiety but looking in the mirror and being able to recognise what’s happening through your body without stressing about it especially during this period in time is very crucial to your well being. Don’t be hard on yourself.
Meditation teaches you this in many ways. No, I’m not talking about sitting cross legs and chasing ”ooom”. I mean…you can cross your legs if you want to and with what I learned on headspace when you feel a certain way or have a thought the best thing to do is see it, accept and acknowledge that it’s their reflection on it if it’s possible to do so at that moment and move on.
Being able to allow ourselves to feel just so we can move past it is a skill we build over time and the most important skill to have. When going through a hard time it can be difficult to do therefore mastering your feelings and emotions means no one else can determine how you feel about yourself because you know how you truly are.
It can be hard to know exactly how you feel in certain moments and we all go through those ”Oh, I don’t know how I feel about this/ that” we are human. Taking care of your well being should be a top priority. If you’re destructive, use alcohol, sex or drugs to avoid life, I’ll be the first to tell you that you’re hindering your growth and it’s not worth it. Remember the importance of a mental reflection now and then and I promise you mental well being will blossom.