”Most of us feel insecure sometimes, but some of us feel insecure most of the time. The kind of childhood you had, past traumas recent experiences of failure or rejection, loneliness, social anxiety, negative beliefs about yourself, perfectionism, or having a critical parent or partner can all contribute to insecurity.”psychologytoday.com
For someone who went through a wave of insecurity, I can say it’s one of the most uncomfortable, unhappiest feelings and I can sympathise with people who have to go through this for months and even years. I believe we all feel a sense of insecurity at a point whether it be our career, appearance, money, relationships etc. Many people prefer to hide than acknowledge their insecurities because it seems much better to hide them than comfront them. When in reality it isn’t. Hiding your insecurities can take a toll on you, cost you money, sanity and time.
Feeling insecure causes low self esteem and a lack of confidence which can affect different aspects of your life. I went through a phase where my skin broke out terribly, I cried about it for days because nothing would work, it just wouldn’t go away and my confidence levels dropped, it affected various parts of my life both personal and social. I didn’t feel good about myself, I didn’t feel pretty and refused to wear make up because I felt it made me look worse. As time went by I learned to embrace it.
”When we accept ourselves for who we are, we are able to shed our insecurities because we no longer care whether we are judged for them.”The Light Program
The sooner you accept your insecurities the easier life gets, but through it all be patient with yourself. If you’re someone who knows someone that feels insecure you have no right to tell them whether they should feel insecure or not, even conventionally good looking people feel insecure. It’s not always about what we see but what the mind tells us. Feeling insecure is not the same as having a bad day, we all have bad days but unfortunately insecurities can affect people in the long run.
- ”Wow your skin has really broken out”
- ”…mhmm, you look different”
Pointing out something obvious doesn’t help at all. They see it, the know they have acne, they know they have gained weight, they know they have lost weight, they know they have a scar, they know they are struggling financially, you do not have to point out every obvious thing. They know.
Unresolved insecurities can have a long term impact on your mental health, lost opportunities, anxiety, depression even OCD. Accepting that there’s certain things you can’t change about yourselves can elevate your confidence. If you feel as though it’s really difficult, because it’s much easier said than done, talk to the people closest to you or a professional. Accepting who you are can be really difficult sometimes but being able to not care what other’s think will always make you the winner.